Accepting the Reality

No matter what your destination, dream or problem; coming on the base reality of things, viewing it through the unbiased, factual and rational mind is the first step towards having clarity and actually being able to solve problems permanently. We need to cultivate the ability to truly accept what IS, find the lesson behind the challenge and embrace it instead of resisting change and living in our own virtual worlds.

This is a short story of my friend Kiran who is a mechanical engineer ‘by education’. Kiran’s sole goal in life is to earn a higher salary package than her elder sister. She is a kind of girl who has been twice year down (Y.D) in her career, has no real interest in the field and is presently jobless aiming for a high salary package. She has done additional courses, tried several job consultancy firms that guaranteed placements, only to return with failure and treachery. She told me about her problem to which I explained her the real base of the problem, but she failed to accept the reality. She reminded me of a story of a fish trying to climb a tree. The fish tried very hard to climb the tree but failed each time no matter how hard it tried. The fish failed to realize that it is not meant to climb the tree, but to swim. It could be better off swimming in the lake rather than climb the tree and feel useless its entire life. In this case, she was the fish.

Another example many of us can relate to is that we know, we need to undergo a body transformation but we hold ourselves back claiming that we don’t have enough time to workout, no gym membership, etc. Even if we decide to start, we waste too much time on researching the best nutritionist in town, that magical workout routine getting exhausted in the process and we never really start. Whereas we fail to realize the base reality that it is our own laziness, lack of determination and action and habit of making excuses that have held us back for so long.

Majority of times we fail to go into depths and understand the roots of the problem. This is caused by the brainwashing of opinions that we all have grown with, which hinders our ability to see the base reality of the problems.

So what could be done? Here are my 6 definitive steps that have helped me over the years and may help you too.

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